Should I Get a Sugar Daddy & Is Sugar Daddy Dating Right for You?


Last Updated: May 1, 2024

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Should I get a sugar daddy? Maybe you said it as a joke to a friend as you walked past that restaurant you’ve been wanting to try but could never afford. Or, maybe you said it while swiping through endlessly bad options on that popular dating app.

The point is, most of us have wondered whether having a sugar daddy could actually improve our lives. There must be a reason why it’s becoming more mainstream, right?

If you’re toying around with the idea of becoming a sugar baby, there are a few questions that will help you find the right answer. Once you’ve considered them all, you’ll be ready to decide whether to stick with traditional dating or take the plunge and find a sugar daddy.

Am I looking for a spouse in the near future?

Unfortunately, if you’re looking for a spouse, sugaring might not be the right avenue for you. For one thing, maintaining a sugar relationship takes time and work. So you might not have extra energy to focus on traditional dating at the same time.

What’s more, potential partners who are outside of the world of sugaring may not be very excited about the idea of you also seeing a sugar daddy. Of course, this isn’t the case for everyone. There are some open-some people out there! But, in general, you can expect to meet some resistance when trying to look for a sugar daddy and a spouse at the same time.

It’s also a good idea to be cautious of any hopes you may have of marrying your sugar daddy. While this does happen, many people who are drawn to this dating style are not looking for a spouse. It’s best to focus on the positive aspects of a sugar relationship in the present without setting expectations for the future.

Can I live in the present moment?

The people who benefit the most from their sugar relationships are the ones that can fully enjoy their time with their sugar daddy. They allow themselves to be showered with compliments, gifts, and luxurious experiences. They genuinely want to listen to their sugar daddy and be an active participant in the conversation. In other words, they can fully appreciate the positive aspects of sugar dating as they’re happening.

Those who struggle with finding fulfillment in being a sugar baby tend to be easily distracted, negative, or anxious about the future. Maybe they spend their dates fixated on their phones, thinking about all of the other ways they could be spending their time. They may also fall into a habit of comparing their relationship with others or wondering whether their current sugar daddy is their best option. These kinds of thought patterns prevent them from experiencing the good things that sugaring has to offer.

You might not know how you’ll feel about being a sugar baby until you try it for yourself. You might find that it’s easy to stay present and engaged on your first date. Or, you might realize that you aren’t able to enjoy the here & now with your sugar daddy. Understanding the difference early on will save you and your potential partner a lot of time.

Do I have the time to dedicate to a sugar daddy?


Keeping a sugar daddy interested, happy, and willing to pamper you takes effort. Here are some of the responsibilities you’ll have:

  • Working with your sugar daddy to plan dates
  • Spending time getting ready for your dates so that you always look your best
  • Being on your A-game during dates to keep your sugar daddy engaged
  • Following up with your sugar daddy to thank them for a wonderful evening
  • (Optional) maintaining contact with your sugar daddy between dates

That’s not to say that sugar babies don’t have time for anything else. In fact, maintaining an independent, interesting life is one of the things that sugar daddies find attractive. That’s why sugar babies tend to be highly motivated, outgoing, ambitious, and good at time management.

Am I comfortable with advocating for myself?

Whether you’re aware of it or not, all relationships require some negotiation. No matter if you’re talking with your boss, your significant other, your friends, or family members, you’re constantly having to express your needs and make compromises. And it’s important to understand the role of negotiations in the sugaring world if you want to create the most fulfilling arrangement possible.

That said, if this is an area you struggle with, you’re not alone. Sugar babies who are women may be especially hesitant to stand up for what they want. Studies have shown that women who engage in self-promotion tend to be rated as less likable by their peers. And, when we’re talking about the world of sugaring, likability is no small thing!

But don’t worry. The more experience you get in advocating for yourself with a sugar partner, the more you’ll learn how to do it effectively. After all, sugar daddies expect it and welcome it. So it’s a great setting to work on your negotiation skills.

Ultimately, if this is an area that you really struggle in, having a sugar daddy might not be the best option. If you are overly stressed at the idea of negotiation, you might find yourself in an arrangement that doesn’t meet your needs.

Do I struggle with jealousy?

One of the appealing aspects of sugaring to many people is its openness. Sugar daddies and sugar babies may date multiple partners at once. Or, they may have a sugar relationship as well as an open traditional relationship with a spouse or significant other.

Of course, monogamous sugar relationships do exist. So, if you don’t feel comfortable sharing your sugar daddy with others, you may be able to find a one-sugar-baby partner. But keep in mind that even in monogamous sugar arrangements, each person is likely to have an active social life separate from their sugar partner. This kind of distance may be important for maintaining the boundaries between personal life and a sugar relationship.

For this reason, it’s best to consider whether your level of jealousy is best suited for this style of dating. If you think that you can be independent, self-assured, and open-minded, you’ll get the most out of a reciprocal sugar arrangement. If you tend to be a more jealous or involved partner, sugaring will likely be uncomfortable for you.

Should I get a sugar daddy even if I don’t like receiving gifts?


Maybe you’re not interested in some of the material benefits of having a sugar daddy. That’s okay! You’ll be happy to know that there are many other benefits of this kind of lifestyle including:

  • The opportunity for travel. Traveling is a luxury that not everyone can afford. But when you are able to do it with a sugar daddy, you’ll never want to go back to hostels and low-cost airlines. The fact is, having your travels funded by your sugar partner will spoil you in the very best way.
  • Career advancement. If you’re looking to break into a particular industry or meet people in your field, finding the right sugar daddy can be key. They’ll invite you to mixers and conventions that will help you get your foot in the door for your dream job.
  • Companionship and life advice. One thing that surprises people outside of sugaring is the fact that many sugar babies genuinely enjoy spending time with their partners. They can learn valuable life advice about how to be financially successful and plan for the future. If you’re looking for a mentor, the right sugar daddy can provide you with direction and guidance.
  • Unforgettable experiences. Sugaring is not all about getting the latest trendy bag, shoes, or even a new car. While those material gifts are certainly welcomed, you can tell your sugar daddy that you’re more interested in experiences such as fine dining, dates to live theater, or helicopter rides over the city. Allow your partner to pamper you with unforgettable adventures instead of store-bought luxuries.

So, it’s time to decide: should I get a sugar daddy?

Only you can answer whether having a sugar daddy is right for you. But we hope that these self-reflective questions have helped to clarify whether now is the right time in your life to pursue a sugar relationship. Overall, one of the best ways to find the answer is to simply try sugaring out for yourself. If it feels right, keep at it!

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