No, it’s not a myth: platonic sugar daddy relationships exist and are flourishing both on- and offline all over the world. Of course, just like with all forms of mutually beneficial relationships, those who are accustomed to traditional romance are initially confused by this type of arrangement. It’s normal to wonder: what kind of sugar daddy is only in it for the emotional connection? Isn’t there a risk that this is just a scam?
Despite the doubt, there are plenty of people out there looking for a platonic connection with a sugar baby. In this article, we’ll explain how it works, what might be expected of you, and how you can find your perfect platonic sugar partner.
What is a platonic sugar daddy relationship?
In traditional romance, physical intimacy is normalized and expected. In fact, society is so fixated on the topic that many people can’t imagine someone being uninterested in a relationship that doesn’t involve sex.
But, let’s face it. Physical intimacy isn’t for everyone. Many people don’t want the stress, baggage, pressure, or risk that comes with physical intimacy. Or, they’re more attracted to the non-physical components of a mutually beneficial relationship, such as lively conversation and the chance to date exciting, energizing sugar babies. Many sugar daddies seeking out platonic relationships are looking for emotional intimacy and connection.
Remember, mutually beneficial arrangements are all about moving beyond old, tired notions of what a relationship should be. In this type of dating, both parties are able to ask for exactly what they want to feel fulfilled in the relationship. If physical intimacy isn’t part of the equation, a sugar daddy may be interested in:
Someone to explore new places with. Many of us have a list of new restaurants to try, movies to see, or maybe even hiking trails to explore as soon as we find the right person to have those experiences with. And a platonic sugar daddy is no different. They may be seeking someone with similar interests who will appreciate going along for the ride.
A sugar baby who will allow them to share their emotions. Sugar daddies tend to be people who are committed to the grind. And, whether they’re in a stressful business role or always traveling, they might not have the time to build emotional connections. A very powerful benefit of platonic arrangements is the chance to be vulnerable without fear of judgment or rejection.
A partner to attend events with. Whether they’re looking for moral support while attending a high-pressure work event or they’d rather not show up alone to a social function, many people in the sugaring world are looking for the perfect “plus one.”
A mentorship role for their sugar baby. Those who are successful in their field may be interested in building up the next generation or ensuring that their legacy will be protected long after they retire. Often, these sugar daddies are full of advice and willing to provide opportunities to a partner with some potential!
As you can see, there are many reasons why someone would seek out this type of relationship. Asking a potential sugar partner why they’re interested in a platonic mutually beneficial arrangement is a great way to start building a connection with them!
Should you be worried about being offered a platonic sugar daddy relationship?
For anyone who is unfamiliar with sugar daddy dating or uninterested in physical connection themselves, the concept of a platonic arrangement may seem ideal. And it’s exactly for that reason that it can be a popular avenue for online scammers.
Typically, scammers will seek out younger people on social media apps, posing as a platonic sugar daddy. Right off the bat, they will offer a cash incentive to catch the attention of a potential target. And, they’ll make it clear that they’re not interested in anything physical or even in-person.
If the scammer is able to gain the trust of their target, that’s when things really get dicey. They may send fake money through Cash App or another platform, and then request some money back before the transaction is validated. Or, they may request a small payment as a show of good faith. Either way, once they’ve received money from their unsuspecting sugar baby, they’re likely to disappear completely.
Unfortunately, these scams are so common that it makes the experience of seeking out a genuine platonic arrangement a bit trickier. But don’t worry. There are real platonic sugar daddies out there, if you know where to look.
How can you find someone who is interested in a platonic relationship?
It’s possible to find sugar partners both online and in-person, and there are advantages and challenges to both. Here’s a quick rundown of how to make the most of either avenue and keep yourself safe in the process:
Meeting sugar daddies online
As we mentioned, one of the risks of looking for this type of relationship online is wasting your time with scammers. But these tips should help you weed out the swindlers so that you can find your ideal sugar partner:
Stick with dedicated sugar dating websites. While it is possible to find a sugar partner on social media platforms, they tend to be a hotbed for scammers. Instead, you’ll be better off making a profile on a dedicated and reliable sugar dating website. This will also make it much easier for you to find sugar daddies who are specifically seeking platonic arrangements. You can take a look at our recent article, How to Find a Sugar Daddy Online, for tips on how to create a great profile.
Get to know a potential sugar daddy. Once you’ve found a potential sugar partner online, it’s time to start connecting! The good news is, that scammers are usually pretty stingy with their time. The more you ask questions, they’ll either disappear or start making mistakes that will reveal their true intentions. So, take the time to ask relationship-building questions, such as a potential sugar daddy’s interests, goals for a platonic arrangement, and more. You’ll be able to weed out the inauthentic people pretty quickly.
Remember that if something seems too good to be true, it probably is. If a potential sugar partner is offering you way more than is normal in mutually beneficial relationships or they are making grand promises that would be difficult to follow through on, take it as a red flag. Keep in mind that these types of arrangements are mutual. If you can’t see the benefit to the other person, they may be trying to take advantage of you.
Seeking out a platonic arrangement in person
One of the major benefits of meeting a sugar daddy in person is that you will know that they are who they say they are. But, finding someone in real life who is willing to enter into a mutually beneficial relationship can be harder than the online route. Here are a few ways that you can boost your chances:
Spend time in the same circles as a potential sugar partner. Online platforms are convenient meeting places for people interested in exactly the same things. But in real life, you have to physically seek out a partner where they are likely to spend the most time. These might be country clubs, high-end hotels, business conferences, or cultural events, and while you may have to invest some money on entrance fees, it’s the best way to meet your future sugar partner.
Don’t be too forward about your intentions. Even platonic arrangements are seen with a good deal of skepticism in our society, so don’t be surprised if someone is shy about admitting they want a sugar baby. Focus on building genuine connections with people in the social circles that are most appealing to you. There will be time to talk about the specifics of the relationship after you’ve built trust.
How can you keep your platonic sugar daddy happy with this type of arrangement?
Now that we’ve established that platonic sugar relationships exist and covered some tips on how to find them safely, you might be wondering how to keep a partner happy in this scenario. Here are a few final words of advice for a successful platonic arrangement:
Emotional connection is hard work. There’s a misunderstanding in sugar dating that non-physical relationships are somehow easier than other types of mutually beneficial arrangements. But, that’s simply not true. Platonic relationships require emotional connection and availability, which is not easy for every sugar baby.
Your consistency is gold. Again, there’s a misbelief that platonic sugar relationships are lower stakes than other arrangements, and that couldn’t be farther from the truth. If you’ve committed to a sugar daddy, regardless of the specifics of the arrangement, you’ll have more success when you’re able to show up on time, keep the communication going, and generally be someone they can rely on.
Are you ready for a platonic sugar daddy?
If you’re ready to embark on the journey of platonic sugar dating, there are plenty of eligible partners waiting to meet you! All you have to do is create your online profile or start frequenting places where a future partner may be, and your authenticity and positive attitude will do the rest!